4.08.2010

How *NOT* to woo women



Balls. I admire men who have 'em, but damn! Some people fail to distinguish the fine line between tenacity/chutzpah and presumptuous, illogical stalking.

Allow me to paint a picture.

You spy in the pet store a cute creature available for adoption. We shall call place this "Point A." You envision the scenario wherein said pet becomes yours. This, boys and girls, is "Point B." To reach Point A, a bridge must be traversed. You must introduce yourself to the pet, assure it that you mean it no harm, and proceed with caution so as not to alarm it, realizing that you are dealing with a caged animal. Then and ONLY then (if you are wise), you allow the animal to come to you for further inspection and forward progression. You build a bridge of trust from Point A to Point B.

What you DO NOT DO is this: poke the animal with a stick. Seriously. This is how you lose an arm. Or, in this hypothetical scenario, how your otherwise lukewarm chances of wooing a lass dissipate faster than ice in Hell because you just soaked the bridge in gasoline, aimed a flamethrower at it, then watched the incineration.

Oh, and when you've poked the animal with a stick by revealing all you know (thereby admitting you have committed an egregious act of cyberstalking), do not be surprised when the caged animal bites you, snarls, and moves as far away as possible from the intrusion.

I mean, reeeeeeeeeally. Telling some chick you know everything about her in your first message is akin to a virgin blowing his wad in the first 6 seconds of intercourse. It's embarrassing for you; it's a waste of time for her; and it all but guarantees no future play. The only thing worse than your passive approach is to show up at her home, office, gym, etc. and introduce yourself without warning. Use this ambush method when you are dying to have your very own restraining order! It works like a charm every time!

So men, heed my advice: just because a chick has personal information (blog, employer data, Facebook, Twitter, etc.) available publicly online DOES NOT MEAN you have been given an engraved invitation into her world. If anything, your admitted cyberstalking is a one-way ticket to Blocked Userville. A wise, logical man would use the information gained as a tool to gradually win the trust and affection of the caged animal. Next time, be THAT man.